niner domestic said:
I too, have had a hesitancy to stay out of this thread although I have discussed it with my peers as it is of an interest to me.
My grandfather was taken a POW in 1941 off the coast of Malaysia after his ship was attacked and sunk by the Japanese and remained a POW until his camp was liberated in 1945. He wasn't an overtly religious man, but had a CofS designation on his dog tags. During his incarceration, he and a select few POWs would do a rotating escape to contact sympathetic islanders who in turn, passed on the INTEL to the allies. They would intentionally be recaptured to continue gathering enemy INTEL throughout their incarceration.
Each time they escaped, they knew that some of their peers would bear the brunt of their escape and possibly be executed. Yet, they continued to carry out their duty. Everytime my Grandfather and his peers were recaptured, he would spend 30-60 days in the sweat box. Everyday the men on the outside of the box would gather and recite the 23rd Psalm to the inmates or sing the hymns of their Branches. They were allowed to do that as their Japanese guards did not try to stop the ministering of faith to the inmates. My grandfather said that he when he felt he could not go on any longer, that hearing the weakened voices of his peers in prayer afforded him the faith that he would survive and if he were to die because of the beatings, the hunger, the illnesses that wracked his body, he knew that it was a just death because he did not break faith with his peers or the men and women who had sacrificed themselves before him.
In the years after his liberation and his return to civvy life, each August he would gather at the Cenotaph with the other survivors of the camps to mark V-J day. He started taking me when I was 5. The men would repeat the 23rd Psalm as if they were speaking it to the men who didn't return with them. They would sing the hymns of the Branches and vow to Remember Them. I asked my grandfather in a time period of my life when I wasn't sure about there being a God, or why anyone would ever want to be religious, why he always prayed at these acts of remembrances. That's when he told me about the breaking of faith with the men and women who had died. He said that until someone else could find another way to express it so that it means and has the same intent, prayer was the only way to keep that faith with the dead. He said that whatever the alternative would be it would have to encompass the Divine Rights of the Queen to whom all Commonwealth servicemen swore to serve, that it would have to include ways to morally bind the person to whatever oath or affirmation they undertook when they enlisted as he truly believed that the enrollment of a person in the military meant that they were entering into an agreement to not only serve their Queen and Country but also to carry on from those who gave up their lives while in that service. John McCrae understood that and so has every military leader that has asked of their troops, sailors and airmen to lay down their lives. Until such a time that all of that can be expressed and be understood to mean the same thing the apparent mechanism of ceremony, prayer and respect is just going to have to suffice.
Now, fast forward to 1982. I'm still not overtly religious but I attend church services and I have baptised my child. On an early summer day, a notification party is standing at my door telling me that my husband has been killed. For all the people that hovered around me for the days and weeks afterwards, the only persons who truly understood the depths of my grief were my Grandparents and the Padre. It was the padre that guided me through the moments where I questioned the fairness of my husband's death. The moment of my comfort came when I reconciled the reasons for his duty and his sacrifice. I have and continue to keep faith with him and those who died for me. I can only express that faith in the acts of remembrance, prayer and when words are not appropriate, the doffing of my hat and bowing of my head. I have not found any other way to express that and affords me to being able keep that faith.
I respect people's faiths and their religious dogma, their spirituality and their non beliefs. We have had a long line of just wars and conflicts that have afforded us those rights to practice or not to practice whatever faith or belief one requires to find their way through life. What I believe, those accumulative conflicts and wars did not grant us is the right to dictate to each other that one belief has to be excluded/included at the whim of a select few. We have had a long battle to attain democracy, and I say, let the democratic mechanisms operate in their fullest while at the same time if those democratic mechanisms suggest that religion is passe in the military, then let it also create ways and means to express and keep the faith with those that gave us that democracy.
And to those who perhaps feel that it is too much an imposition to doff a hat, bow a head or simply shut up for a few moments to allow others to carry out their acts of remembrances and acts of faith, then I feel immensely sorry for you that you fail to "get" what the program is truly about. For those who do find their way to participate even though their own belief systems say otherwise, then to them I say, thank you.
My sincere comndolences and sympathies are with you. A chaplain helped me whem my father died, as I was away at Alert at the time. They are truly magnificent people.
Let me, a convinced Atheist, offer you some thoughts.
When people around you engage, as Canadians are wont to do, in voluntary worship and prayer, it is only natural and right for you to remove your headdress, and so I always do. However, a military parade is not a voluntary worship service, it is a command performance. NO ONE on that parade has any choice, except the commanding officer who made it happen. Let's not confuse religion here with the act of honouring and remembering fallen comrades. Those with no religion remember and honour them too.
However, the military never lets any of us have the microphone to impose our ideas on 350 people. We get a dose of someone else's beliefs, with no way to manifest our own. Can you tell the faithful from the non-believers by looking at the ranks?
Last summer I saw two Canadian soldiers put in a position where, in order to exercise their Charter Freedom of Consicence and Religion, they had to step off parade, in front of everyone, and walk from the left flank to the right, away from their fellow soldiers, their Regiment and their Colours.
They were not unwilling to honour the fallen or engage in an Act of Remembrance, they just didn't feel they should pray on command with their CO. and neither do I. Maybe the next time that happens, the soldier will march straight into a lawyer's office.
Canadian Law, DND/CF regulations and common respect and decency say these things should not be happening. But they do. The CF is the only government agency in the country where your boss can order you to join him in religious ritual, and if you refuse he can charge you, try you, convict you and punish you.
Just try to imagine what would happen if a senior supervisor in say, Revenue Canada, decided that he had a morale problem in his office and, as a team-building exercise, he would set up an altar in the parking lot and order his entire staff out to hear prayers and receive blessings from a government-employed priest. This is EXACTLY what the CO of the unit did. It was not Remembrance Day, Battle of the Atlantic Sunday or anyone's funeral. He did it in order to foster unit cohesion. In other words, he didn't want any goddam atheists in his unit, so he showed them the door. Literally.
If we can hold a parade and ask people to leave on the basis of their Position of Conscience and Religion, then we should be able to also do it on the basis of race or gender. (Remember the good old days when we were all white and all male?)
People who keep bringing up stories of our veterans at Dieppe and elsewhere must understand that there were many men in those units, who had nothing but disdain for religion, and they fought bravely and they died too. Remembering the fallen is only a religious act if you believe it to be so. For the rest of us it is a commemorative act, and Canadian Law, and all DND/CF regs on inclusion and accommodation say it is so.
There is more to religious inclusion than just setting up a menora or having rugs on the floor.
Remember, atheists in Canada now number six million, more than the entire membership of the United and Anglican churches combined. We are aminstream, not a radical fringe. We don't want to change things to suit us, we want to find ways for all of us to join together. There has to be a way, if we can only stop griping at one another. We honour and commemorate your husband too. He was our comrade as much as he was anyone else's. All we ask is to be included.