In the seemingly never-ending ways on how to cushion children against ever having hurt feelings, an increasing number of schools in England are "banning" children from having a best friend.
Off with the BFFs?
"The best accessory a girl can have is her best friend." Paris Hilton.
Not sure I've ever agreed with Ms. Hilton on anything in the past, but I do like the sentiment behind this thought from a woman who can probably afford many different material accoutrements. But an increasing number of schools in England wouldn't condone this type of accessorizing, as they move to introduce a policy banning "Best Friends". The thinking is that they would rather the children played in large groups, and not get too attached to one child, as it can cause hurt feelings should that relationship break up. What? Are children never allowed to experience feeling bad?
In my mind this is the latest in a string of bad policies which diminish, not enhance, the childhood of our children. We've already got policies that don't allow them to fail in school; they get "progress reports" instead of hard grades; they're forced to invite the whole class to their birthday party; and don't even get me started on the "every team gets a trophy" or "no-score" soccer leagues. Heck, I still remember the good old days when, as kids, we only gave Valentine's cards to people we actually wanted to give Valentine's cards to. Crazy, right?
Even with this "policy" in place, BFF, or "Best Friends Forever" friendships will still form, and the only difference will be is that the kids may be made to feel bad about doing it. This is progress?
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Absolutely crazy. :