Everyone deals with separation differently. The
crunch of it happens in the second week and getting over that hump will allow you to continue on. In my platoon, there were two guys that wanted to request for volunteer release (VR) and it was a combination of separation and not sure if they could handle BMQ.
During the first and second week (regular force BMQ), the staff wacks on the workload and its a big shock for most people. Recruits are not used to the pace, other members of the platoon, trying to work together, interpersonal issues, the stress of forced timings particularily, testing, and getting crap together on-time. Usually, during the later second week, the recruit feels a ball of anxiety building and then hits the "hump". And some decide to go into the VR process or question their desire to continue.
This is the moment of truth for some. And I recommend that the affected recruit talk to their
"section" or to someone that was placed in the platoon from PAT. This also represents one of the
beginnings of true teamwork forming in the platoon.
The guy in our section who wanted to VR spoke to
us about his feelings and what come out of the
conversation was this:
1. There was and is a desire to join the Forces;
2. Your already here;
3. The platoon helps the platoon (section helps
section)and we stick together;
4. The VR process CAN take as long as 4 week;
5. You‘ll be put on a PAT platoon awaiting
release for the process to end;
6. If its 4 weeks, thats half the course and you
might as well finish it as the work is somewhat
similar on PAT anyway (that was the truth);
7. After BMQ, the regular military is different
and its just 10 weeks and you‘re done with BMQ.
Don‘t worry about short term issues, focus on finishing the course and take it day by day.
The guy considered what was discuss and it was a combo of the team sticking together and the lengthy VR process. Might as well stick it out
and he made a decision to stay in and finish BMQ.
This guy did finish the course and was one of three nominated for the "Person displaying the
most teamwork and comradship". I can‘t remember the name of the award right now. But he did really well after getting over the hump.
Another guy in the platoon (in another section)
made a decision to VR and left St.Jean within a few weeks. The military just wasn‘t for him.
What I‘m saying may not have a context right
now until the second week. Good luck and
remember for the time you‘re in BMQ; your a band of brothers/sisters and stick together.