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I wonder if anyone can answer me a question about the ethics and/or the legality of an officer in the Canadian Army Reserves sending emails to someone pretending to be serving in Afghanistan? I met someone on an online dating site claiming to be doing a tour of active duty, commanding a tank unit that was protecting supply convoys over in Afghanistan for six months. The person in question is actually an active Officer in the Army Reserves, and was most definitely NOT in Afghanistan during the time I was getting the emails. When we eventually met (obviously after six months), he wore his dress uniform to the date, and continued on with the deception about having just come back from over there, and had also been injured.
He actually did eventually go to Afghanistan, as a supply tech or something, for six months. But my recent discovery of his original deception has left me flabbergasted and shell shocked to say the least! He is in a position of trust with cadets, teaching morals, ethics and honour, and his position is that it doesn't matter what he told me in his emails as we hadn't actually "met" in person at that time.
Please - can someone tell me, I am missing something here? Is this acceptable behaviour ? Is this permissable behaviour for a commissioned officer of the reserves?
We are not together anymore, but this has still floored me because I feel the whole relationship was built on a lie.
I'd really appreciate anyone's opinions, or knowledge regarding ethics, etc.
I am not a military person, so I don't know all of the Codes of Conduct. Also, can a dress uniform (the green suit one) be worn to a christmas party that is non-regimental and non-military? I think this person possibly has some narcissitic issues and I'm concerned because of his position of trust.
Thanks so much - anyone.
Puzzled Girl
He actually did eventually go to Afghanistan, as a supply tech or something, for six months. But my recent discovery of his original deception has left me flabbergasted and shell shocked to say the least! He is in a position of trust with cadets, teaching morals, ethics and honour, and his position is that it doesn't matter what he told me in his emails as we hadn't actually "met" in person at that time.
Please - can someone tell me, I am missing something here? Is this acceptable behaviour ? Is this permissable behaviour for a commissioned officer of the reserves?
We are not together anymore, but this has still floored me because I feel the whole relationship was built on a lie.
I'd really appreciate anyone's opinions, or knowledge regarding ethics, etc.
I am not a military person, so I don't know all of the Codes of Conduct. Also, can a dress uniform (the green suit one) be worn to a christmas party that is non-regimental and non-military? I think this person possibly has some narcissitic issues and I'm concerned because of his position of trust.
Thanks so much - anyone.
Puzzled Girl