Gaslight him? Not at all. Gaslighting is trying to convince someone of a falsehood, subtly and over the long term, and against their own perceptions. Just calling out what appears to me to be the hypocrisy of shitting on the country (not just the government) while in its service and drawing its paycheck. He is gainfully employable in lots of different places. The ‘you can work elsewhere’ part of my reply was utterly earnest.I generally agree with this sentiment and want more people to realize they can quit the CAF, stop suckling on the Government teet and be completely fine.
Military and organizations like Police Forces condition people psychologically to think they can't do anything else. It's all part of their plan to coerce people to stay.
They even put up massive administrative roadblocks to make it difficult for someone to leave and they make doing things like withdrawing your pension extremely burdensome. It's all part of their coercion strategy.
I also think mass resignations are one of the best ways to effect changes on a public institution. If an institution is faltering, it needs to be smashed in to dust, not strung along on life support.
Look at the CAF right now, it's borderline combat ineffective but I don't think it's bled enough yet. I think it needs a catastrophic failure and needs to be seen as a continued massive source of embarrassment for the Government for real change to occur. I could say the same thing about a number of our other garbage public institutions as well
So yes, please continue to encourage others to quit. I do it myself and have provided similar advice to a number of people. I don't think that was your intent and think you were merely trying to gaslight @Quirky but I think it was great advice.
It's certainly easier to say "Quit if you don't like it" than actually listening to people's grievances
Someone who simply doesn’t like their job, I wouldn’t reply as I did. Not my business. Lots of people embrace the stick and stick it out for good reason. I simply wasn’t going to walk past and ignore someone characterizing our entire country the way he did, announcing that he ‘can’t wait’ to leave, knowing that in truth he still serves it.
Sticking it out for the pension is an entirely rational choice. It’s just not aligned with his own declaration, and I felt like pointing that out.