As an OCdt, I don't pretend to have a whole lot of experience to base opinions on. I do have the benefit of having been an army brat, so I have experienced first hand the 'military family lifestyle' from the child's perspective, and have been lucky to have met many members of the CF of all ranks through friends, friend's parents, my parents' coworkers, and now, my own first steps in the CF.
One thing I find to be a recurring theme, both in conversations I have now, have had in the past, or witness here on the forums, is the problem of vague promises. The CF is committed to retention, so here's all these great things we're going to do to keep skilled members <insert praise of some program here>.
Or, the CF is committed to families, so here's all the ways we're going to help your family <another list of programs and funding>
Why not say, the CF is committed to families so we're going to let you stay where you're posted (service needs obviously permitting)? I've read stories on here of people having very good personal reasons for wanting to stay somewhere, and having very good reasons to believe that their needs matched up with service needs. Instead, they were shipped off somewhere else, sold their house, uprooted their families, and filled similar positions on different bases for the sake of variety in their career.
I'm not saying that everyone should be allowed to be sedentary and never move; I'm saying that there has to be a way for people to look at a family situation and see that it just makes sense for the sake of that members family to keep them where they are for another year or two, if the service needs permit, and then have them move off into another position. Maybe I'm optimistic, but I would hope that discretion could be exercised in order to see when this kind of situation is valid.
I don't mean to derail the thread, or project the image that I think whining about postings is ok (I'm more than ready to relocate as I'm directed, the same way I did as a child when my dad got posted); I'm just looking to see if there's a connection between vague promises based on funding direction, and real, tangible promises which can improve the life of a service member, thereby potentially increasing the longevity of their career.