My husband is currently on IR in Trenton, and since he's married he's staying in the Yukon Lodge. His ql3 course for ACISS doesn't look like it'll be happening until a rumored end of August start date, or in December. Here's our situation, I have a medical condition, and one of THE BEST doctors in Canada who specializes in my condition is in Kingston, and my current specialist knows him personally and can set up a direct referral to him. There's also a surgeon in Toronto that can perform a surgery that I require, and it would be easier to travel there from Kingston than from my home in Halifax. This medical condition is expensive (about $500 a month on medications, plus weekly treatments), and there's been an issue with our medical coverage through the CF, and we've been waiting since March to have it fixed so that I can start receiving benefits. Because of this, we've been paying everything completely out of pocket. On top of that, we have rent and bills to pay for here in Halifax, plus hubby's Rations in Trenton, and I'm not currently working because of my condition.
We've thought of a few solutions and we're not sure which could work out best.
1) We know we don't want to go for a compassionate status or move, as that would affect his career, and he's still capable of performing his duties. But would a CCM be possible? Could they simply transfer him over to Kingston to finish the rest of his IR and then to do his 18 week aciss training, and move me up and we can stay in a PMQ on base? But from what we've been able to gather, applying for a CCM can take a long time.
2) We could do a no cost move, and I just move up and live in Kingston myself. But a) that can be costly and it's money we don't have and b) I know that can cause issues later on when we get moved to a new post or something. Also we'd still be paying for me to live there which doesn't really help our financial issues.
3) We know that since he's at the Yukon lodge, spouses are allowed to visit. But for how long? Just a weekend? Or could I possibly stay with him for a few months and just travel back and forth to Kingston until his IR is all done?
4) He leaves the CF, we end our relationship, or we suck it up and deal with it.
I've only seen him for a few days since he first left for BMQ back in October. He's not been able to attend a single appointment, gone with me for any treatments, and he even had to miss my first surgery a couple weeks ago because he was in Meaford. He's tried repeatedly to go talk to the clerks to find out what he could do or to get help, and every time they say "come back tomorrow." I don't want to be the reason why he has to give up his career and his dream of being in the military, but we also don't want to have to sacrifice our marriage. We've been getting a lot of "Leave the CF or leave your wife, you can't have both" and "Suck it up" mentality from friends and family. I wish it were that simple. I didn't choose to become sick. We're really hoping option 1 or 3 is a possibility, and we're wondering how he can go about resolving this? Any help would be appreciated.