Hi,
I was wondering what people's experience might be like while your spouse is away. Currently my spouse is away at basic training and has very little time to talk. When there is a weekend that they have off, I am like great! We finally have a chance to talk and catch up, but my spouse seems distant now that he has joined the military, not interested in talking at all and making the conversation very difficult. He says he just needs to come home. I say to him he needs to learn to separate the two, and open up again to me like he used to before he joined. I was his best friend, the person he turned to and now he seems to be distracted by his platoon on the weekend. That is all fine, go out and have fun, bond do all that... but make time for us as well when you have a weekend off. It seems he would rather forget about us at home and when he does have a moment to catch up, use his platoon around him as an excuse as to why he can't talk. He is much older than his platoon mates too. I kind of think he is getting influenced by these young single people who have a only me attitued. I am supporting his career change, we have a baby at home and I have a career of my own when I go back from mat leave. Am I supposed to be a 1950's wife who sets back and watches her husband be a jerk and just keep taking it? What do military members go through when they have a family and are away? I don't undersand.
I was wondering what people's experience might be like while your spouse is away. Currently my spouse is away at basic training and has very little time to talk. When there is a weekend that they have off, I am like great! We finally have a chance to talk and catch up, but my spouse seems distant now that he has joined the military, not interested in talking at all and making the conversation very difficult. He says he just needs to come home. I say to him he needs to learn to separate the two, and open up again to me like he used to before he joined. I was his best friend, the person he turned to and now he seems to be distracted by his platoon on the weekend. That is all fine, go out and have fun, bond do all that... but make time for us as well when you have a weekend off. It seems he would rather forget about us at home and when he does have a moment to catch up, use his platoon around him as an excuse as to why he can't talk. He is much older than his platoon mates too. I kind of think he is getting influenced by these young single people who have a only me attitued. I am supporting his career change, we have a baby at home and I have a career of my own when I go back from mat leave. Am I supposed to be a 1950's wife who sets back and watches her husband be a jerk and just keep taking it? What do military members go through when they have a family and are away? I don't undersand.