technophile said:
I know I am leaving the door open for a blast of S*** from a few members here.
But, I fail to see the difference between a MSC and a military member and their spouse with civilian employment with regards to whether or not separation expenses and meals being cut is fair or not.
Should the advice " if you are posted and your spouse doesn't want to leave their job then get out " apply to both groups here ? If you are a MSC and posted apart, then shouldn't one make the " family sacrifice" and release ?
Some members spouses have put significant time into achieving their career goals, ( as I am sure military pers have ) only to be treated as second class citizens and forced to " be the good wife " and follow their husbands. ( or wives, whatever the case may be ) I don't see how a MSC differ in this regard and should and are asking to be treated as "special". Of course, the rules currently apply to both parties, but here I am hearing more arguing on this forum from MSC who feel they should be treated differently.
I really feel for both groups in this situation. I will be a tough decision this posting season when members are forced to chose their career or their family. I am not choosing one side or the other, I just think the same rules should apply.
It has been addressed in this thread already.
The CF, thus Canada, benefits from the employment of a MSC twice. Two people who are willing to go anywhere, anytime for anything. The CF does not reap the same benefit from a member with a civilian spouse.
MSC are also not availed of the same "fall back" opportunities (or "outs" if you like to call them that) as a member with a civilian spouse.
We can't go to the padre/social worker and get a "stay" on a posting for compassionate grounds or kid's educational needs for example.
My spouse just recd word today that he is posted to Ottawa end-Apr/beginning May. Period. Interesting that. I am the pers in the apartment in a different location than his current or future location ... he's now posted prior to end-year. Good thing the kids have now graduated else they'd apparently have to live on their own until the end of the school year. No "outs" for us in that respect.
Show me a military member with a civilian spouse who'd have to up and move like that without regard for the kids or their schooling. If our kids were still in grade school, they'd have no choice but to transfer schools in April - even if they were in grade 12.
MSCs are not comparable to mil/civ couples. We are treated very differently by the system and are both expected to react to that system - anytime of year; regardless of circumstances. And, in our case we do exactly that. This new policy negatively impacts exactly those of us who do exactly as our country requires, whenever and wherever required at the CF's direction. We, truly, have NO choice in the matter. To be clear, it is us MSCs who do all the shitty outside of APS postings so members with civilian families do not get interrupted. Screw us. Yet again. This will now be the third time in 5 years one of us has been posted in the Jan-Apr time frame to fill essential positions vacated by others so that mil/civ spouse do not have to do so and interrupt their family.
If this was a mil/civ family, the mil guy would go by himself and move his family during APS. That is not an option we MSCs get.
Edit to add: Single CF members are often posted mid-year as above so that mil/civ spouse couples do not have their family's quality of life interrupted as well. However, in the case of a single member who has a home, they have the option of proceeding unaccompanied (thus having rent covered until APS) until their home sells etc. An MSC who are posted apart do not have that option under the "mid-year posting circumstances" as one of them is already receiving that benefit. If their home can't sell until APS, too bad. The other half must still move to the posting location and incur financial expenses for accommodations and costs associated with the new posting until their home (that no one is now living in) is sold. People may call this "rare" occasion, but it sure as hell is not for us!! Yep, two members paying for accommodations in two locations while the CF covers one's rent in a third location. You'll NEVER see that occur with a civ/mil couple.
As for the poster who indicated that careers attempts to accomodate ... you should read the entire thread. Two MSCs, both men same rank and trade and both women same rank and trade. Me and her husband both unaccompanied at one base while his wife and my husband were posted to another base. How does that make sense!!?? Awesome "accommodation" that is (how about no attempt??). Speak of that which you know, but do not assume that is actually occurring out here in the real world because it is not.