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R.Jacquel said:Ok, I probably could have asked this at the recruiting center but didn't want to seem foolish or weird asking. I want to join the reserves very badly to for two reason's to speed up my Police career and to prove to myself that I can do it. Though I have this girlfriend that I have had for 3 years and she just keeps saying "your going to lose your legs", "your going to go over seas and die"
How can I show her that this isn't how it is and that things aren't like the war in Iraq. She also believes that I will be forced over seas and no matter what I will die over there. What are all the pluses to the lifestyle as well as the minuses. And for all the guys who have wives and girlfriends, what have you done to calm them down and help them cope with a job that could possibly kill me.
Thanks again
Ryan
Ryan,
I won't be as kind as Elsiha because your girlfriend is being irrational.
I am sure the recruiter told you that, as a reservist, you cannot be compelled to serve domestically or internatinoally without your consent baring an order in council. One of the amateur lawyers can confirm this, but I believe, you cannot even be forced overseas through the order in council. If she is still hysterical, take her down to the recruiter with you and ask the nice man or woman to explain what the obligations for service are to her.
If discussing the situation with a recruiter doesn't work, you may want to consider chalking up three years to experience and dumping her. You stated you wanted a police career. What are you going to do when she doesn't want you "walk the beat" because cops are getting shot/stabbed/etc by the bad guys?
My advice, drop her if she is not more supportive after being together for 3 years and move on to adulthood. It will probably be good for both of you.
Cheers,