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This is an issue that most of us don't particularly want to deal with, but it's a reality and we had better be informed.......


Grieving daughter critical of funeral costs
October 19, 2012 - 4:02am By BRETT BUNDALE
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Thousands of dollars worth of unwanted, unnecessary 'services' hidden within home’s package deal, woman says By Brett Bundale, Business Reporter



TRAGEDY STRUCK JENNIE MORROW’s family twice this year. After her sister died of lung cancer in the spring, her mother succumbed to a long battle with Alzheimer’s disease in the summer.

But the two funerals couldn’t have been more different.

While she says her sister’s funeral was fairly priced, she says her mother’s funeral was a costly affair punctuated by forced package deals, misleading funeral directors and disingenuous contracts.

In a province with the most expensive traditional funerals in the country, Morrow’s experience sheds light on a potentially troubling underside of the funeral industry.

It was a warm July morning just before dawn when her 89-year-old mother passed away quietly in her sleep.

Heeding the octogenarian’s wishes for a funeral mass and burial at the Catholic church near her childhood home, Morrow’s family called a funeral home in Digby.

Jayne’s Funeral Home sent a hearse to collect the body and Morrow went to meet with the funeral home.

She was dumbfounded by what she was told.

“When my mother died and we called to make the arrangements, they didn’t say anything about having to buy a package,” Morrow said in an interview. “But when I sat down with the funeral director, I was told they don’t sell funerals, they sell packages.”

The funeral director of Jayne’s Funeral Home, a division of Service Corporation International, based in Houston, refused to offer a price list and instead insisted on a package deal, she said.

The packages started at $9,099 but didn’t include taxes or the cost of the church mass or reception, Morrow said.

After she expressed concern with the cost and asked where her mother’s body was being held, the funeral home did not offer her a price list but instead knocked $1,100 off the price, she said.

“It was almost time for the funeral and they already had her body. It’s like they’re holding you hostage.”

Jayne’s Funeral Home referred calls to its parent company, which owns funeral homes across the United States and Canada, including nine in Nova Scotia.

Jessica McDunn, a spokeswoman for the international provider of funeral goods and services, declined to comment on personal matters.

“We’re very sorry for the family’s loss,” she said. “We take very seriously our commitment to our families, and that includes guarding their privacy.”

However, McDunn said the firm does not have a policy that requires funeral homes to sell packages rather than select services.
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Sounds typical of the industry.

My mother in laws attitude is "I don't have any money I'm not spending a dime on life insurance, welfare can bury me". Unfortunately I don't think that's what's going to happen with her and her tens of thousands of dollars worth of debt..


I want the cheapest thing for myself possible. Cremation, no service no burial- small party with an open bar. 

 
ObedientiaZelum said:
I want the cheapest thing for myself possible. Cremation, no service no burial- small party with an open bar.

Open bar? I thought you said cheap!

My parents were smart. They've made all the arrangements and paid for the services beforehand. This gave them a chance to shop around for the best deal.
 
Strike said:
Open bar? I thought you said cheap!

I don't have any friends so $100 should cover it  ;D


My parents were smart. They've made all the arrangements and paid for the services beforehand. This gave them a chance to shop around for the best deal.
Wise, I'd like to do the same.
 
..and it's Cornwall so it's all smuggled across the river.
 
ObedientiaZelum said:
Wise, I'd like to do the same.
If you really want your end-of-days treatment as simple as you'd like, you'd be smart to get it sorted out ahead of time - you could get away from big bills, and save the family the anguish of thinking "what would he have wanted?" at a time they're already pretty anguished.

To be fair to the industry, like any other significant expense, it's caveat emptor.  The biggest problem is that many potential buyers don't like/want to talk about this stuff beforehand, and when it's time to buy the service, you're buying a potentially big expense set of goods and services at a time when you can barely make decisions.  Uncomfortable as it may be, ALWAYS good to preplan - we know we're ALL going to need the service at some point.
 
Strike said:
My parents were smart. They've made all the arrangements and paid for the services beforehand. This gave them a chance to shop around for the best deal.

My parents just recently did the same thing. Not only does it save on future costs, and allow you to shop around for the best price, it also takes out a lot of the stress for the family members (I'm the only child) by having all of the arrangements done before hand.
 
ObedientiaZelum said:
I don't have any friends so $100 should cover it  ;D

Wise, I'd like to do the same.

$100 wont cover my Padre's tab.
 
milnews.ca said:
If you really want your end-of-days treatment as simple as you'd like, you'd be smart to get it sorted out ahead of time - you could get away from big bills, and save the family the anguish of thinking "what would he have wanted?" at a time they're already pretty anguished.

To be fair to the industry, like any other significant expense, it's caveat emptor.  The biggest problem is that many potential buyers don't like/want to talk about this stuff beforehand, and when it's time to buy the service, you're buying a potentially big expense set of goods and services at a time when you can barely make decisions.  Uncomfortable as it may be, ALWAYS good to preplan - we know we're ALL going to need the service at some point.

The trouble as well is that if you live in a small community, your options are limited to one funeral home. It's hard to "shop around" when you are essentially dealing with a monopoly, who often not only owns the funeral business in your community, but the others in surrounding areas as well. I happen to be fairly good friends with the guys who run the one in our community, so I'm not terribly worries about my arrangements, my wife is pretty well aware of what's to happen........
 
I have a friend of mine that was a mortician before his new career. He stated that it is a huge business with no monopoly. And getting into that field is extremely very hard.
It is basically you have to know someone in order to get a job there. Now he does my tattoos.  ;D

Regards,
Macey
 
Macey said:
I have a friend of mine that was a mortician before his new career. He stated that it is a huge business with no monopoly. And getting into that field is extremely very hard.
It is basically you have to know someone in order to get a job there. Now he does my tattoos.  ;D

Regards,
Macey

With all due respect...how do you consider a business with no competitors in the area not a monopoly? You're saying that a small town funeral operator in a community like Orangeville ON, or Fergus ON, with say only one or two funeral homes is a competitive environment?

Huge business, yes. Hard to get in if you don't have any connections, yes. Competitive, hardly.
 
Can't speak for town, but on the Eastern Shore of NS there are several homes that provide service.  I do understand, however, that the one at MH is charging themselves out of local business.  My neighbours have gone to a home that is in a adjacent area as their prices are more reasonable.

I think that this is a business you are pretty well behind the eight ball in dealing with.  You have to see one eventually and there's no option for those left behind to not deal with one.  I think for what you get, it's vastly overpriced and takes advantage of families in crisis in general.  Anyway you look at it you're screwed, to one degree or another.
 
ObedientiaZelum said:
Sounds typical of the industry.

My mother in laws attitude is "I don't have any money I'm not spending a dime on life insurance, welfare can bury me". Unfortunately I don't think that's what's going to happen with her and her tens of thousands of dollars worth of debt..


I want the cheapest thing for myself possible. Cremation, no service no burial- small party with an open bar. 

OZ, this happened to me when I returned from Afghanistan in 2007.  My father passed away and for the ten years before that had been fighting "the man"... "The man" was revenue Quebec and Canada who immediately scooped up any assets he had and then informed me of the $64 000 other debt he owed within days of his passing.  I knew he was a bohemian and he had always wanted a simple funeral.  There was no big funeral or anything, I had a memorial service at a local coffee shop for him and he was cremated.

Simple.. and he hangs out around the house now, one day I'll try and get a trans atlantic cruise as that's how he got over here from England.

Mind you, I'm a no bullshit person and wouldn't let anyone take advantage of me.
 
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