Not everyone's cut out for life in the CF. No shame in that; better he figure it out now, while he's young and still only on BMQ, than later when it's more difficult to alter his path in life.Artyman said:He's 18 and has never been away from home. Not everyone has lived on their own for a few years.
Artyman said:He's 18 and has never been away from home. Not everyone has lived on their own for a few years.
Hatchet Man said:And???? People have been joining the military at that age for decades now. Many of them were leaving home for the first time. :
George Wallace said:But ....... Today, so many want to live in their parent's basement. >
Hatchet Man said:It took a while, but as soon as I was able to financially, I was out, not having a basement in the family home helps .
George Wallace said:While you say that, there are many today who still will not leave that basement, even if they are finacially able to.
td_2013 said:My hubby is in BMQ right now and while he OBVIOUSLY has stressful / challenging days... he knows that it is a game, and he tells me how amazing of an experience it is - already.
Eye In The Sky said:While some aspects of it are 'a game' and you hear the term 'play the game' etc, it is actually trg. For example - inspections; they teach things like teamwork and attention to detail. Attention to detail passes over to most everything you will do in the CF, whether it is wpns handling, document handling, getting your DEUs ready for a parade, you name it. Teamwork is part of the foundation of the military.
BMQ is also the start of the transition thru the 'discipline stages' ( -> Imposed Discipline <- , *Group Discipline, Habits & Behaviour, Self Discipline. IIRC, those are from SLC in '02). Discipline is another foundation of the military.
There are some core lessons learned on BMQ/BMOQ that shouldn't be ignored or forgotten, which makes it far more than "a game".
Not directed at you or your hubby, but more for "potential recruit types" who may read this. :2c:
*not barrackroom discipline/justice like blanket parties, etc. Think "doing what everyone else is doing and the team looking out for each other". You have a thread you can't see a minute before inspection, someone removes it. Bloggins forgets his gloves, you remind him, etc.
Sunnyns said:Do you think. Maybe it's the cell phones that are causing the problem. When I went and my husband went we talked once a week. Now with the cell phones and computers, people are talking everyday and MAYBE this is not allowing the kids and parents to cut the apron strings.
If you are not talking on the phone everyday to family back home you would be spending your time bonding with the platoon. Everyone is in the same boat there, they are all away from home.
Just my thoughts
Sunnyns said:Do you think. Maybe it's the cell phones that are causing the problem. When I went and my husband went we talked once a week. Now with the cell phones and computers, people are talking everyday and MAYBE this is not allowing the kids and parents to cut the apron strings.
If you are not talking on the phone everyday to family back home you would be spending your time bonding with the platoon. Everyone is in the same boat there, they are all away from home.
Just my thoughts
ObedientiaZelum said:I think you hit the nail on the head Sunnyns. Being cut off from your connections back home sucks but recruits quickly get used to being out of touch because their days are so regimented and busy. They literally don't have time to miss home.
Chatting/texting/facebooking with everyone back home every night MAY seem like it helps but I'm willing to bet all it does is reinforce the idea that the recruit is away from home and away from their family, every night. Instead of loosing yourself in the training and experience you sit there and feel sorry for yourself.
Naturally that may not be the case for everyone but I bet it's a majority.
Artyman I was giving you a hard time because I thought that you almost sounded as if you were bragging about your peers who VRd.